I have to admit I completely lost it on my crew last Monday night. Yup, pretty much the opposite of keeping my ____* together. *sh^t, zen, happy, life…(you pick) Thankfully, Dave wasn’t here to witness the meltdown — he was at his essential place of work.   Let me explain. Many members of the crew were…

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Two days after Christmas last year, I hitched my belt and realized that I had to go out a notch further than usual. And, then my inner critic stepped to the front of the stage. I’d know that voice anywhere, the one that is very good at making me feel like sh*t about myself, and today…

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Bryn, our oldest, is graduating this weekend from UChicago. Natalie, a college junior, has just returned from Spain and is in the midst of a hard-earned internship at the local hospital. Aaron will be wrapping up his finals and preparing for a ski camp in Oregon, which starts the day after Bryn’s graduation. Mary will…

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  Does it get easier? clients and friends will ask, referring to the school drop-off. We have four children: boy (23), girl (20), boy (13), girl (11).W call them the Bigs and the Littles. (But only one husband!) We’ve done the drop-off, the send-off, the lugging of rugs and small fridges and the fret of…

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“If you spend your life feeding people’s vanity, you get so you can’t distinguish what should be respected in them.” —F. Scott Fitzgerald “Leave your pride, ego, and narcissism somewhere else. Reactions from those parts of you will reinforce your children’s most primitive fears.” —Henry Cloud Bryn, our sophomore in college, called in February. “I…

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